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Old 01-19-2013, 09:51 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Sadly we had to put our 11 year old Boxer Tko to sleep two days ago. He was our first pet and we really miss him. He was diagnosed with liver and spleen cancer and they told us he had 3-6 months to live. Unfortunately he did not even make it a month.
We said we would wait awhile to get another dog, but the house is so quiet. We also keep saying we do not want another Boxer because we would compare them to our beloved Tko. Our problem is that a boxer is perfect in everyway, especially our Tko.
My question to everyone on here. How long did you wait? What other breeds did you consider?
Thanks and RIP Tko aka Meatball
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:32 PM   #2 (permalink)
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First off, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my beloved boxer Lilly on January 1st (19 days ago). the grief is crippling and I still cry every day. I thought that if I even considered getting another pet/boxer it would be disrespectful to her. After about a week or so I starting thinking that she loved other animals and she probably would have loved to have another pet in the house when she was alive. So I decided to honor her spirit and memory with a new baby boxer in the house. I started watching videos of baby and grown boxers on youtube. At first they made me cry, but after a while they reminded me of how wonderful Lilly was, and what a great breed boxers are....even with the health issues. After a few days the videos made me really want to fill the house with a new baby. So I started looking around at adoption options, and I have a baby boxer coming in 5 weeks.
Although i grieve every day for Lilly, there is an excitement growing inside for my new arrival, Gracie.
I know I will never forget Lilly and will always have a strong love in my heart for her, and I will see her again someday. What helped me the most was this forum, and youtube. Having others to talk with that are going through the same thing has been very helpful. Youtube helped remind of how wonderful this breed is.
Oh - and so that I wouldn't compare my new boxer to Lilly, I purposely got a brindle (Lilly was a fawn). I feel that having a distinct difference in appearance will help me not expect her to be just like Lilly. I considered other breeds, but there is nothing like a boxer... so I really don't want anything else. I will be a boxer daddy for the rest of my life. So I expect to go through this 'circle of life' quite a few times in the future, as awful as it is.
I wish you the best with this process... I know it absolutely sucks... but hopefully soon you will reach a point where you feel that bringing in a new baby will bring you all joy, as well as honoring the memory/spirit of the beloved boxer you raised. I've come to realize that both can be done at the same time.
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Old 01-19-2013, 10:49 PM   #3 (permalink)
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So sorry for your loss of Tko
Our two are our first two, so haven't had to suffer through the loss of a boxer, but we wouldn't hesitate to get another. They are the best.

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Old 01-19-2013, 11:06 PM   #4 (permalink)
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It was almost six months to the day after my dog Cindy(big spotted mix breed dog) of almost eleven years died from cancer when Lucy(Boxer) unexpectedly came into my life. we already had another dog Holly(lab mix) but the house still felt empty as if there was a void that needed to be filled, I had started considering getting another puppy for a few weeks when got a call from my vet that a sweet boxer pup was rescued from an neglectful home and needed a foster family, I said yes I would foster her, but as soon as they put her in my arms it was instant love and I knew she belonged with me and I adopted her on the spot. about two months later we rescued Toby(pit mix) from an abusive home, at the time we didn't want another dog but he and Lucy bonded and I could never separate them they just love each other so much, thats how we got our boy Toby. the house is so alive again now that I adopted/rescued Lucy and Toby, when I brought them home they gave new life and energy to the house. I wasn't looking for any specific breed of dog when I felt I was ready for another dog, I just knew I didn't want another spotted dog like Cindy for a while, it would be too hard..
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Old 01-19-2013, 11:23 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I lost my heart dog Riley to ARVC in Oct 2011. I decided while treating him that I was going to wait a long time before getting another. His last 10 months were nothing but a roller coaster with a lot of downs including having to watch him nearly die at the animal hospital. The experience taught me a lot, but it also drained me emotionally and I knew I had to have time in between before getting another. With that said, about two weeks after he passed I started looking for a new puppy. Riley was my constant companion and it was just way to quiet without him. I felt myself slipping and knew I needed to do something or I'd be an emotional wreck even more than I already was.

I got lucky and found Logan's litter pretty quickly and the breeder I got him from was fantastic. She met all of my criteria (health testing, breeding to better the breed, was friendly and concerned about where her pups went, but was also willing to answer my many questions) and before I knew it I was making a deposit. I still had about 5 weeks before he was ready to come home which helped with the grieving process, but he also helped to repair my broken heart once he came home.

It's just important to remember that your new dog/puppy is not replacing the one you just lost. There never will be a replacement. At times I compared Logan to Riley, but eventually realized that Logan is Logan and it's not fair to compare him. Once I realized that our bond became stronger.

Oh, and the thought of another breed never crossed my mind. I knew I needed a boxer!
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Our beloved Sofia died on January 16, 2013. She was the joy in our lives of chaos. Her death from AIHA was very quick. Routine vaccinations in December with blood labs to check her function on Rimadyl (TPLO) and two weeks later her blood count was half. It rapidly dropped from there to where a normal, happy, toy playing dog became immobile and died in 24 hours. I have had boxers before with prolonged emotionally draining deaths. I feel for people who experience that. Sofia had a good death. After initially swearing off the breed (I've never had one reach 7 years x 4 consecutive boxers) I'm back to considering another one 4 days after a "good death". I think the manner in which they go matters. She was normal and then she was dead. The in-between is where you have to reset and regain equilibrium.
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Old 01-20-2013, 08:25 AM   #7 (permalink)
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Three years ago I lost my heart dog roxi to a bad spay we were heartbroken 36hours later one of her pups from her oops litter was returned to us best thing that could have happened in a horrid situation for both familys the one that couldn't keep ziggy and us she helped the healing process she looks a lot like her momma and has some of her personality too it was hard for me to get close to her at first but now she is the best thing that could have happened to us
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Old 01-20-2013, 09:45 AM   #8 (permalink)
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I am very sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my Harley 4 days ago(Jan. 16) due to a brain tumour. My situation is a bit different because my 2 boxer girls are still with me but I know I have distanced myself a bit from them due to the pain I feel and that they are not my sweet boy (don't get me wrong, I still love them unconditionally). Each person, and situation is different. I do not believe there is a "right" amount of time to wait. If you feel in your heart that you are ready, then go for it. As for the breed, I too have moments where I think "never again" but then I see my girls and think of my boy and I could never not have a boxer. They really are just the greatest.
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Old 01-20-2013, 10:14 AM   #9 (permalink)
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I am so sorry for your loss. I really do understand. This past Nov 2012 when K died I wanted to rush out to get another dog asap. Loosing two dogs in under a year has been horrible. I miss them so much.

There is no perfect time..For me, I started to think that I too might be trying to replace my previous boxers. And I do not want to put the pressure on a new puppy. I have seen this happen before with friends. I know myself. My expectations are very high. My husband is still not ready.

How do you know when you are ready?
I am asking myself this very question. In the past I waited a year between the death and new puppy. This time I am not so sure. I know the feelings you have. Less than week after K died I was on line looking. I joined this forum Jan 3 because I miss my boxers so much. I could take a baby in my house today. My husband feel like he is betraying the love he has for our lost babies. For him this is not coming easily but I see how much he needs the love of a puppy.

Someone posted on another thread. "You will know when you are ready."

I think the fact you are aware of why you want another dog is fantastic. I think it is wise to post and find out what others have done. I will be watching as you follow your journey. May your heart heal with the memories you have Tko and know that you will see him again one day.

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First off I'm so sorry for your loss. As far as your question I think it depends on the person and their situation. After my beloved Gouda crossed the bridge last year I said it wuold be a LONG time until I got another dog. I had been through 3 years of cancer with her and it was too painful to think about getting another dog.

Well I ended up getting Kippah 1 month to the day after Gouda passed. For me it was a no brainer since Kippah was young and healthy and at risk to be put down at a kill shelter.

Give yourself time to grieve. If and when you are ready for a dog one will present itself. I know it did for me. Good luck!
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