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Lost my best friend on Saturday to stomach cancer. He just turned 8 years old, but was also diagnosed with Cardiomyopathy back in January. The void created is almost unmanageable at this point. For folks that have gone through this, how long did you wait to get another boxer? Did it help?

Part of me needs something to fill the void but I also worry that I'll always be comparing everything to him, the perfect dog.
 

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Sorry for your loss, my condolences.

All depends on the person really. Only you can decide when you are ready. One thing I would advise against is comparing any dog to a previous dog. I have had several and they all hold a different place for me, but I never tried to compare them cause they are all different. They all had their different quirks and personalities and thats what made them all individuals and great in their own ways.
 

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I can sympathize with what your going through, I lost my 10 month old Dutch Shepard to a sudden onset of septic arthritis and was devastated. It's never easy to loose a dog but a 10 month old puppy, that just tore a hole in my soul.

Like you I was left with a huge void in my life, the kind that can only be filled with a dog. I absolutely could not bring myself to get another Shepard because like you, the memories would just be too hard to deal with. I had rescued a Boxer in the past and he was a fantastic dog but I never got to enjoy "puppyhood" as he was 14 months when I got him. I decided that a Boxer would be perfect for me but since my last guy was a Fawn I put my efforts into finding breeders who were producing litters with Brindles.

Boxers are a breed that many people seem to lock into and end up having several in their lifetimes and I can understand why. I wouldn't worry about constant "comparisons" if you get another Boxer but perhaps look for a puppy that's a different colour and/or sex then your last dog.

I can't stress enough however how important it is to do your research and find a good quality breeder who will focus on health and temperament. Don't rush this just to fill the void. As hard as it is to deal with the emptiness of not having a dog in your life it would be much worse if you rushed out and got a dog with health problems.
 

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I am so sorry you lost your dog that way. I lost my previous two dogs to cardiomyopathy. It was very hard to move on from but I did get new dogs first I researched a breeder and talked with her several times then I decided to get on her waiting list and I got my little girl 6 months later I had some time to grieve but I needed a dog in my life and no other dog seems to make me happy but a boxer. It was love at first sight when I got her she had me instantly wrapped I was apprehensive at first but she made all that go away then a year later I got her half brother they are best friend and play a lot and make the grief I felt and still feel a little easier. I don't feel like I have ever replaced any of my dogs I just think of it as an in addition to because all of them are different. I feel all of them around me all the time but I have these two now to make my life fun again so whenever you feel you are ready its the time to make this move don't do it before
 

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I am sorry for your loss. It always hurts to lose a dog. And as for how long it hurt's?? Well well that depends entirely on the circumstances and the individual??

Sudden traumatic losses ... out of the "Blue??" Are pretty much the worst of circumstance's one minuet your dog is there and the next he's gone?? I lost my first Boxer/Pitt mix in an accident that was my fault! And I could not let of the guilt ... I was diagnosed as "Suicidal and had PTSD. I was on drug therapy for ... four year's??

And my Stewie was a fawn dog and was "very" much a Boxer in behavior and for four years ... I could not engage with a Fawn Boxer ... without breaking into tears! So of course my wife was worried about so she found us another Boxer! A Brindle pup ... "Hedi," ...sigh BYB puppy we did know?? And Hedi had "PARVO!" She was a game a little trooper, and she spent her "One Week," of life of with us at the Vet during the day and her evening at home with me administering IV's.

She was a game little girl but to small and to weak and she died on a Thursday night in my arm's ... so much for getting over a loss with another Dog/Boxer??

So that was two Boxer's down as it was and I still wanted a Boxer ... and maybe one year later, (Parvo in the yard maybe??) but I was running out of color's??

Now at the time "Breeder's" were still putting putting down "White Boxer's!!" The early 2000's in America!! Well that seemed like crap to me!! So of course ... a "White Boxer," was what I wanted! Aww, well I still did know not what a BYB was but ... I did better!

I got my White Boxer my beloved Struddell (Avatar) and I did much better with her sigh for a while?? But in year eight and (right on course) DM struck?? Still with pretty much 24/7 care and me struggling to manage her care ... she did barely manage to make it to the ten year mark. Which depending on where you look ... seems to be par for the course for most Boxers??

Frankly I call BS on that, the larger the Dog the shorter there life and Boxer's aren't that big?? But ... whatever that's not my call to make. Irish Wolf Hound's average life span is 6 years!!! So you know there is that ...

Ok a long tangent here ... but my point is that "comparing a new Boxer," to one you had "could/may" be an issue ..."color can be important!" But if you at least had "year's" of good time's with that color Boxer ... it does help??

But that is a theory on my part. Cuz, I suppose ... I messed up?? If you live with a partner?? And if you grieve to long ... they will think your being silly?? And they will find a dog for you!

I lost Struddell in 2013 and this time I had ton's of good memories, with her! So I wanted another "Female White Boxer!!"

And I wanted local cuz I wanted to chose my girl in person!! But sigh ... after six year's my wife was done and she took over! So now I have a "Bella," and that was an issue for me cuz "Bella," is not a "Bob!!" So you know in a Boxer household two females ... can be a "serious freaking issue," so yeah ...

But back on point ... the first two week's of loss ... is I think typically as bad as the grieving is gonna get on under normal circumstances???

And it made be hard to believe but if your guy had Cardiomyopathy Issues also?? He hung in there for there you! Cuz Cardiomyopathy ... alone can take them out in the blink of an eye!! On here we have had a pup's that were gone at six month's old! And other's that have dropped over dead while playing with owner's playing and other's that have dropped over dead with owner's on site!! So as much as losing your dog sucked he did spar you that ....

As for me sigh well I'm still pretty ticked off that Bella is a girl!!! I still want a another "White Boxer!" I did not like my life with Struddell ended but I had eight year's of good times with her! So I'm not that concerned with comparison's?? But having to chose a "Boy," "now," ... really tick's me off!!!
 

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Lost my best friend on Saturday to stomach cancer. He just turned 8 years old, but was also diagnosed with Cardiomyopathy back in January. The void created is almost unmanageable at this point. For folks that have gone through this, how long did you wait to get another boxer? Did it help?

Part of me needs something to fill the void but I also worry that I'll always be comparing everything to him, the perfect dog.
Yes, getting another helps. It's very hard to lose them. And it does not get easier as you get older. Give it a couple weeks. You'll start remembering the fun times and be grateful for the blessing of him in your life for 8 years. :(
 

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Sorry for your loss OP. Condolences to you.

For one thing, remember the good times! Getting another pup will help, but maybe take a couple of months...?

Every dog is different, hate to sound cliche.
Your new doggy won’t ever fill the hole left in your heart by your old pup. But you will have new experiences and make new memories with them. Taking your time will help you know when you may be prepared to take on a brand new doggie
 

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Lost my best friend on Saturday to stomach cancer. He just turned 8 years old, but was also diagnosed with Cardiomyopathy back in January. The void created is almost unmanageable at this point. For folks that have gone through this, how long did you wait to get another boxer? Did it help?

Part of me needs something to fill the void but I also worry that I'll always be comparing everything to him, the perfect dog.
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I adopted another Boxer 5 months after I lost my guy. This time a girl and she is a lady. She's a good dog but I don't think you can ever get over the hurt of losing one . They are like children to me it feels like a piece of me died . I have never had any thing hurt so deep.
 

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When you are ready to get a new dog the new one is not a "replacement" for the dog you lost you are getting a new companion to help fill the holes left in your life your previous dog left. The "new" dog is never going to be the same but the love you develop for them will help you heal your heart and move on. Your past dogs loved you and they would not want you to go thru life without a "doggie caretaker" so as hard as it is you have to move on. Boxers are very special dogs and for some reason they bond deep with their owners and on many levels they are very intuitive and seem to know just what you need from them. I have had other dogs in the past but they are just different and that's why I will always have one. Don't give up!
 

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I didn't start looking for a Boxer until my last one had been gone for nine months. I knew the grieving would get better, but didn't expect it to last that long. The male had died at nine years of lymphoma. I found a breeder who was recommended, and I liked the contract I had to sign. Well, the replacement was aloof for the first several months, and wanted nothing to do with snuggling. He was off exploring. We fostered a dog, and I'm ashamed to say that I made a couple trips to a Petland just so I could cuddle with a puppy. I don't buy animals from places like Petland, but it was sure great to play with one. I'm glad I waited until I had more energy to focus on a new dog.
 

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I can sympathize with what your going through, I lost my 10 month old Dutch Shepard to a sudden onset of septic arthritis and was devastated. It's never easy to loose a dog but a 10 month old puppy, that just tore a hole in my soul.

Like you I was left with a huge void in my life, the kind that can only be filled with a dog. I absolutely could not bring myself to get another Shepard because like you, the memories would just be too hard to deal with. I had rescued a Boxer in the past and he was a fantastic dog but I never got to enjoy "puppyhood" as he was 14 months when I got him. I decided that a Boxer would be perfect for me but since my last guy was a Fawn I put my efforts into finding breeders who were producing litters with Brindles.

Boxers are a breed that many people seem to lock into and end up having several in their lifetimes and I can understand why. I wouldn't worry about constant "comparisons" if you get another Boxer but perhaps look for a puppy that's a different colour and/or sex then your last dog.

I can't stress enough however how important it is to do your research and find a good quality breeder who will focus on health and temperament. Don't rush this just to fill the void. As hard as it is to deal with the emptiness of not having a dog in your life it would be much worse if you rushed out and got a dog with health problems.
Heart and cancer. Two bad ones pertaining to Boxers as well as other breeds. But I always swear "No More" and then two or three months down the road, I begin looking.
 

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I feel your pain ! Loss my last one 3 weeks ago!

We start looking, rescues anywhere!! COASTAL BOXER RESCUE contacted references, home-visit . Excellent VETTING Process too! The dogs a 100% “ healthy “ before cleared adopted, including fixing them and chipping them! I’m “Fostering “ theses 2 m/f. Beautiful babies, truly bonded! Well, my first attempt & I’m a foster fail & PROUD OF IT!!!

The story:

Found by a lady in Homestead & she took them in & called boxer rescue! They are very sweet! Male & female used for backyard Breeding!! They just abandon them when they’re not producing! Their paws were burnt from road!!! They really don’t know basic commands, I don’t think they ever walked on leases, Bc they’re kept caged neither was chipped. It is their MO for those Breeder, so they can’t be tracked .

Still have a few medical issues & need to be fixed but hopefully they live happy healthy lives!
Since they are a truly bonded pair, to separate would be would be tragic for both.
Log:
6/28- easy , we were all exhausted! They didnt eat, just walked & smelled.
Sad, i took male in yard to throw ball........he didn’t even flinch, Watched it sail over his head at least 5 inches! 😳 but they’ve never played with balls, fetch, 😢😢
6/28 getting better & better! I amazed.....or is this the calm before the storm!!!?🙏🏼🙏🏼😳😳😳💪🏼💪🏼
 

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Lost my best friend on Saturday to stomach cancer. He just turned 8 years old, but was also diagnosed with Cardiomyopathy back in January. The void created is almost unmanageable at this point. For folks that have gone through this, how long did you wait to get another boxer? Did it help?

Part of me needs something to fill the void but I also worry that I'll always be comparing everything to him, the perfect dog.
You’ll know when you make eye contact!!

If you feel it n your heart that it’s time, start by just looking. We did that and ended up with a bonded pair from homestead areas in S.Fl. These a lot of farm, livestock arches thousands! And theres a lot of nothing!!! I am fostering now , we’re waiting on minor medical issues,need clearance .
I’ve had 2 days and they’re great.....I know, it’ll change but no signs of aggression or major behavior traits Problems, except D A R T I N G out, running, I got tags alerted neighborhood, if they get out until they’re trained! It’s good to do, my mind & body & soul feel alive again!
 

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Ok well first thank you for rescuing them! Finding people to take on a "Bonded Pair," is really tough! As they have learned to depend on each other and not people.

I have never taken on that challenge but have done a few Rescues, and step one which I have not done, my bad is this.:

Now I will say that is what people that "Know what they are doing, do!" Sigh with my current Boxer/Pit rescue Bella I chose to do otherwise? Sigh three years on, I am still paying for that mistake? Others would not see it. But I know what I did. But I know what I did. "DON"T," start training for at least "Two Weeks!" And for "God's' Sake," don't try training the Down just yet!

So if you start from there? It means right now you are "Crating the Dog's?" If that is not true and it's a Boxer Board so I would guess it's not? Then it's gonna be a "bit different?" And your gonna be kinda sorta on your own here? But I can try and help you with what I think could still work?

Because there are things you will have to do with each dog separately because they need to learn to "You," and not each other all the time.
 
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