[AshleysMom]

Ok, since day one of owning Ashley ( she was my x-mas present ) I INSISTED she be on collar and leash in the front yard. We have a so-so busy street, but I know at 4 months if she see's something interesting..she will bolt, and all it takes is ONE car driver caught off gaurd.
I have tried everything I can think of to re-inforce this to my DH, but he refuses to LISTEN!! I just caught him out the side yard with the puppy..off leash as he wheeled top soil into the back-yard. I yelled for her to come ( of course being protective Mommy ) and he yells at ME that she is fine..that she is listening to him, and following him around.
I am SO angry..I told him, "if you LOVE her like you say you do...you'd leash her ALWAYS!! ". Now not only am I hovering around the back yard fence opening and closing it for the big oaf ( DH..not Ashley! ) but I have to give her a full bath, as he thinks its funny that she is jumping up and biting the soil as he spreads it..she is dirt from head to toe!! Grrrrr!!!!
Any suggestions besides hiding my baby girl when he goes outside?? ( I know his one and only other dog was picked up by the pound and died along the way due to heat stroke...you would think THAT would deter him from letting her run free but NO!! Is he a block-head..or what?? )

 

[JessiesMom]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

I feel your pain... Jessie is completely dominant over my boyfriend, and i've told him a million times how to correct it but he wont listen.  I dont know if there is any way to get through to them!

 

[HannaBanana]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

Give him a couple of episodes of Animal Planted Vet Interns.    Hopefully there may be a dog who got hit by a car.   That will sink some reality into him.   We live on a VERY busy street.  Only part that the dogs are allowed off lead is the pool area because its fenced in.   However I always freak, even on lead about what would happen if they were by the street.   Luckily I train all the time on recall.   Its the biggest things I think I can train just for that instance.  

He may be able to trust her, but its all the other things that I would not trust!!

 

[JeanenesBoogerBabies]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

Yup...you know, it wasn't all that long ago that a friend of the board was walking her dogs out to her car...something she had done MANY times before...they were VERY good on recall...very obedient...and SOMEONE ELSES dog came out of nowhere and engaged one of hers...chased HIM into the street at which point a startled driver came around the corner too fast and hit him...he died...and it was someone elses dog...our babies are pretty amazing on cooperation....but, it doesn't mean everyone else's dog is! And what about a squirrel, etc...they are DOGS after all!  So sorry to hear of your frustration...it can be incredibly hard to watch...hang in there...

 

[sully]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

My neighbors do this too.   Their dog is really good at listening but the wife told me that a couple of times he wandered into the street and it was a miracle he wasn't hit.  Their backyard is small but its fenced in!  I don't get the point of risking it.

YA know part of it I think is that most dudes think you can't baby a dog, if you just let them fend for themselves they'll grow up tough and better for it.  Its just a stupid macho thing.  Of course my wife tells me I baby the hell out of my dog, so what do I know.

 

[abgmauldin]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

Well I know how scared that can make you.  I always have to check and make sure the fences are closed my dh always forgets.  If this helps let me show you  a boxer that I have been following her progress at my local boxer rescue maybe this will help your husband, bc I know that it breaks my heart.  All it takes is one second.  Sorry if this is long.  It is dated from recent to oldest But here is cheyenne's story:


(3-8-08) Cheyenne came home from the vets office on 3-3-08 and she is doing very well. She saw the vet today and had her stitches removed. The Dr says he is very pleased with Cheyenne's progress. She still has several more weeks of recovery but he thinks she is doing wonderful!

(2-29-08 4:45pm) Cheyenne had her 3rd surgery yesterday and is doing very well. She is still recovering at the vets office but she should be going home to her foster family either Saturday or Monday depending on her progress. She has had many visits from her foster mom and other volunteers at Red Dirt. She even got a special meal of chicken and rice today (thanks Nancy). Please keep this little girl in your thoughts as she continues to heal.

(2-25-08 10:00pm) Cheyenne was supposed to be released today from the vets office. We were all so excited that she would get to be at home with her foster family. However, unfortunately that did not get to happen. Cheyenne's leg started to swell more than normal so the Doctor decided to do another x-ray. The plate that was placed in Cheyenne's joint in her pelvis was having problems. The screws had backed themselves out and were causing some complications. Cheyenne will be having a third surgery on Wednesday the 27th to repair the plate in her pelvis. Please say some special prayers for this sweet little girl.

(2-23-08 11:00am) Cheyenne had her second surgery last night to repair her fractured pelvis. Her doctors worked hard on her until 11:00pm last night. They said that Cheyenne is doing exceptionally well for what all she has been through. They believe her surgeries have been successful and they expect her to make a full recovery. It will be a very long road for Cheyenne but if anyone can do it she can, she is one tough little girl. Please continue to send Cheyenne your get well wishes, she will need all she can get. Thank you for your continued support and prayers.

(2-21-08 5:04pm) Cheyenne had her first surgery and now has one rod, one plate, 4 screws, and 5 wires holding her femur together. The Vet Hospital has ordered a special plate for the pelvis surgery. She probably will have that surgery tomorrow. The ladies at the clinic and Dr.Link were calling her the million dollar boxer...after all she has been through with coming from a puppy mill and the illness she had when we got her...she still continues to need your support. Cheyenne sends her wiggles and kisses.

(02-18-08 6:15pm) Cheyenne decided she needed to go for a little adventure this evening. When a cousin came over to visit, Cheyenne bolted out the door in all the confusion. She ran as fast as her little legs would carry her through acres and acres of woods. When she came out the other side, Cheyenne was struck by a car. A passerby, seen her get hit and stopped to take care of her. She called the number on her tag, and RDBR jumped into action. Cheyenne was taken to Deer Creek Veterinary Hospital, where Dr. Link and his staff went to work on her. At this time, we know Cheyenne has a broken femur, and her pelvis has been fractured in two places. Cheyenne was left in Dr. Link's excellent care, to await her first of several surgeries tomorrow morning. Cheyenne has a long road to travel to recover from her wild adventures. We want to thank the good samaritan who stopped to take care of Cheyenne until other volunteers could get there to get Cheyenne to the vet. If you could help RDBR in caring for this sweet little girl, we would be forever gratful.

Thank you
All of the volunteers at RDBR and especially Cheyenne's foster family.

 

[15842]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

One of my neighbors does that and every time I walk Ringer past the house, her dog comes at us.  I think it sets back all the training I do with Ringer about dog encounters on the leash.  Ringer's recall is getting really good now, he even comes now when we are at the dog park and he is playing with other dogs, but I wouldn't trust him to not want to investigate some leaf, squirrel, dog, blade of grass, bag, cat, tree, hydrant, car, person ...

What is DH?  Damn husband? Double Helix?  I know what it implies but not what it literally means.

 

[abgmauldin]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

Dear Husband

 

[1boxer]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

Well my DW doesnt put the toilet seat up when she is finished!  I make quite a mess sometimes!
Just kidding, I had to say something on behalf of all men everywhere.
-Rich

 

[Guest]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

we will sometimes let the dogs off leash if we are just walking to the car...both are very good and we live on a pretty much dead street...so we are't really worried about cars...we see maybe 5 a day...they also like car rides more than squirrels...lol...I've never seen either show interest in squirrels....

 

[maplesfolks]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

i think men in general don't like to be told what to do, they tend to think that their ways/ideas are superior (sometimes they know they are wrong just won't admit it)  I will not talk to my husband when I'm upset over something just because I know it'll go nowhere, i give him the silent treatment lol not for any other reason other then that i just don't want to talk at that time. I'll usually bring up the issue when I'm a bit calmer and he is not doing anything (i find before we go to bed is a good time) and I ask him to please not interrupt me and let me say what I want, if he starts to interrupt I loose train of though and then it ends up being just an argument vs. a conversation where we can come to an agreement.  but I know what you mean once they have their mind set on something there is almost no changing it.

 

[sully]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

I know plenty of guys who get bossed around by their wives with nothing more than a "yes dear" so I'd say thats an overgeneralization that doesn't really ring true.

That's a dangerous road to go down, anyway.  Men don't listen.  Women can't drive.  See what I mean....

 

[tootsie]

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What do I do when the hubby won't listen?    /

   b-(   b-(   b-(


Hahaha...J/K... I know how difficult it is when you don't see eye to eye with someone.

 

[sully]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

When my wife doesn't listen, I usually just club her over the head and drag her back to my cave    :lol:

 

[1boxer]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

[quote="maplesfolks\";p=\"93721":2jg9db4a]i think men in general don't like to be told what to do, they tend to think that their ways/ideas are superior (sometimes they know they are wrong just won't admit it)

 

[AshleysMom]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

LOL Sully..I wished I had your club to use this morning!! The bath went ok till Ashley "helped" me get her out..then I was mad..WET and had dirt in MY hair...ohhhhh the man is going to drive me crazy!! He could have at least offered to help BATHE her since he pitched the dirt at her.

 

[Ky_IsisnOnyxsMama]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

well i lost my american bully to a car...

our road was busy ( washington street in easton sully) and he NEVER left the yard..lived there 5 yrs...he knew ...BUT that ONE time that another dog was loose and running down the road he saw it through the window...my son opened the door to grab something off the porch and the dog went flying by him ( the dog NEVER did this )

cars go fast on that road...he was hit by a car going about 40...he flew through the air and hit a tree...sorry for the graphics...it was weeks ..of pain meds, surgeries, money..and in the end he still died ..the injuries were too much..

cant ever count on what the dog wont do...he was super trained, behaved like a prince..it just struck him wrong that day and there he went

maybe you could write it all down to hubby? i know saying ti hasnt worked...but maybe write it all in a letter or email where he can sit and read it without feeling the need to argue...be nice and explain every point and say that you are just afraid and could he please try to understand

youd be surprised what that can do..a letter or email takes the defensiveness, arguing and snappyness out of it totally...maybe email him while at work? or write the letter and when hes doing something quiet and in a good mood nicely say could you please read this? and walk away ...dont be anywhere around him so that he cant say anything he just has to read

it works !

 

[AshleysMom]

Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

I'm so sorry to hear about your dog   . I have tried to explain this to him..it only takes ONE second..and your baby is gone forever.... I am going to make him sit down tonight when things settle down, and have him read this post. I get too upset with him to put it into words that he is risking Ashleys LIFE with his idea she is under control. Thank you all so much for listening to me rant about this, but I was phyically ill from seeing her run like that with no restraint. How can you say you love something, then be so careless?? I just don't get it.......