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What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't listen??

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Ok, since day one of owning Ashley ( she was my x-mas present ) I INSISTED she be on collar and leash in the front yard. We have a so-so busy street, but I know at 4 months if she see's something interesting..she will bolt, and all it takes is ONE car driver caught off gaurd.
I have tried everything I can think of to re-inforce this to my DH, but he refuses to LISTEN!! I just caught him out the side yard with the leash as he wheeled top soil into the back-yard. I yelled for her to come ( of course being protective Mommy ) and he yells at ME that she is fine..that she is listening to him, and following him around.
I am SO angry..I told him, "if you LOVE her like you say you'd leash her ALWAYS!! ". Now not only am I hovering around the back yard fence opening and closing it for the big oaf ( DH..not Ashley! ) but I have to give her a full bath, as he thinks its funny that she is jumping up and biting the soil as he spreads it..she is dirt from head to toe!! Grrrrr!!!!
Any suggestions besides hiding my baby girl when he goes outside?? ( I know his one and only other dog was picked up by the pound and died along the way due to heat would think THAT would deter him from letting her run free but NO!! Is he a block-head..or what?? )
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Re: What do you do when you have a partner who doesn't liste

well i lost my american bully to a car...

our road was busy ( washington street in easton sully) and he NEVER left the yard..lived there 5 yrs...he knew ...BUT that ONE time that another dog was loose and running down the road he saw it through the son opened the door to grab something off the porch and the dog went flying by him ( the dog NEVER did this )

cars go fast on that road...he was hit by a car going about 40...he flew through the air and hit a tree...sorry for the was weeks ..of pain meds, surgeries, money..and in the end he still died ..the injuries were too much..

cant ever count on what the dog wont do...he was super trained, behaved like a just struck him wrong that day and there he went :(

maybe you could write it all down to hubby? i know saying ti hasnt worked...but maybe write it all in a letter or email where he can sit and read it without feeling the need to nice and explain every point and say that you are just afraid and could he please try to understand

youd be surprised what that can do..a letter or email takes the defensiveness, arguing and snappyness out of it totally...maybe email him while at work? or write the letter and when hes doing something quiet and in a good mood nicely say could you please read this? and walk away ...dont be anywhere around him so that he cant say anything he just has to read

it works !
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